Peggy and I vowed to always be there for one another and we were until...Alzheimer's started making her disappear in her 40's.
I walk back through my mind to the day that we made our forever friend promise. Our promise was to always be there for one another.
It was a hot summer day in Birmingham, Alabama and we were keeping cool playing with the garden hose in our front yard. We ran through the cold water screaming and laughing for hours.
Our mother was sitting on the porch with her sister, who was visiting. I heard mother and Aunt Louise talk about fair weather friends as we ran through the cold water of the garden hose.
We finished our play and sat on the steps below mother and Aunt Louise. We listened to every word that they said and smothered giggles and rolled our eyes at their conversation. We were enjoying hearing their grown up talk until they realized we were listening and told us to go and play.
Later that evening, we were walking down our street and discussing fair weather friends, what the word meant and if we knew any one who was like that to us. We each had a list of people that we thought might be fair weather friends. We began to put them into categories and name names!
There were the fair weather friends who hurt our feelings on purpose.
There were the fair weather friends who were not really our friends unless we were having a party.
There were fair weather friends who made fun of us one day and liked us the next day.
There were the fair weather friends that we kept hoping would like us and invite us to their house but they never did.
Then, there were the fair weather friends who just forgot to include us. They didn't mean any harm and usually apologized for the oversight.
I have days when I get angry that Peggy is not there for me any longer. Days when I feel like she has bcome one of those fair weather friends.
I have days when I need her to listen to my life.
Days when I need her to be there for me again.
Days when the empty space that she left is as high as a mountain and deep as the sea.
I have days when I have to remember my promise to Peggy on that hot day in Alabama when we were girls.
I promised her that I would never be a fair weather friend and she promised me the same.
All of Peggys promises were taken away from her theday the Alzheimer's disease entered her mind and made her forget.
I remember two little girls who thought that they had forever as sisters.
Forever came to soon and I am the only one who remembers that day so long ago.The day we made promises and meant them with all of our young hearts.
We just never realized that sometimes ..... promises are broken and cannot be kept.
The thought never entered our minds that ......
Forever would come so soon.
I Love You Today, Peggy!
I Miss You!